Mary Loyer: Founder of Red Lipstick Inc.

Mary Loyer: Founder of Red Lipstick Inc.

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To Ask or Not to Ask?

February 27, 2008

Do you ever feel like you can’t ask for help? I admit that I have sometimes felt the need to show my independence, suck it up, and just do it. I think the term is: Be my own warrior. As I’ve gotten used to doing things on my own, I forget to ask for help especially from men. But why? Do you ever think as I have: That they won’t do it the "right" way? They might mess it up! Maybe you’ve felt so valuable and applauded when you accomplish things on your own, that it motivates you to do more. If you are anything like me, this has led to much exhaustion and sometimes burn out. Ay Carumba!

Recently, I started to ask myself a few questions: Do I need to be doing everything myself? Will I live if it’s not done exactly the way I would do it? Could I possibly learn a new and even better way of doing something? What if my boyfriend, and my male colleagues are waiting for me to ask for help so they can save me once in a while and be my hero for the day? Ahh, that sounds kind of nice…

What do you think? Are you one to Ask or not to Ask? Am I the only one who is a recovering Non-Asker?

In my fascination of this topic, I came across this very interesting book that shed some light for me: Women Don’t Ask: Negotiation and the Gender Divide By Linda Babcock, Sara Laschever
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