Mary Loyer: Founder of Red Lipstick Inc.

Mary Loyer: Founder of Red Lipstick Inc.

Welcome Ladies! As a Speaker and Relationship Coach, I will show you a new perspective on how to be confident woman as bold as red lipstick! If you've ever been frustrated by the men in your life or felt overwhelmed trying to find your own balance and harmony, you have come to the right place for some answers!

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Penny For Your Thoughts ?

February 22, 2009

Ever feel like getting thoughts and feelings out of your guy is like pulling teeth?  I sometimes catch myself asking my boyfriend a question, and when he doesn’t answer me fast enough, I want to give him multiple choice or answer for him.   I use to think it might be that men were slow or maybe they didn’t get the question?  Now I laugh about it because I realized that sometimes I’ve talked to men like I do with my girlfriends.  When I get together with my girlfriends, we talk over each other like gatherers do as if we just found the ripest berry and we must tell everyone!  I love it- and we don’t even notice if one of us is interrupting the other.  It’s like a berry-fest.  No wonder I was giving my boyfriend multiple choice!  I was expecting this interchange of details and berries!

 

As hunters, men can get straight to the point, and may not even mention what they think is obvious. This can certainly be frustrating for those of us gatherers who are hoping for a good berry report.  I have since learned that if I just ask a question, and actually pause for a few seconds, my boyfriend let’s me know exactly what he’s thinking—and it’s usually pretty brilliant!  I’m liking my new 30 second rule.  The next time you’re talking with your boyfriend, husband, or male co-worker, try pausing for 30 seconds.  You might owe a lot of pennies  for all the thoughts you get!