Mary Loyer: Founder of Red Lipstick Inc.

Mary Loyer: Founder of Red Lipstick Inc.

Welcome Ladies! As a Speaker and Relationship Coach, I will show you a new perspective on how to be confident woman as bold as red lipstick! If you've ever been frustrated by the men in your life or felt overwhelmed trying to find your own balance and harmony, you have come to the right place for some answers!

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ALAMTLAL Many of you may have already heard of the recent book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.”  In this book,  Comedian Steve Harvey writes to us women, giving us the REAL scoop on what men really think about love, relationships, intimacy, and commitment.  I found it so fascinating, that I was compelled to tell you about some of my favorite revelations.  In the first chapter, “What Drives Men,” Steve Harvey explains that Men are driven by WHO they are, WHAT they do, and HOW much they make. No matter if he is a CEO, a CON, or both, everything he does is filtered through his title (who he is), how he gets the title (what he does), and the reward he gets for the effort (how much he makes).  These three things make up the DNA of manhood—the three accomplishments every man must achieve before he feels like he’s truly fulfilled his destiny as a man.

After reading this, I couldn’t help but think about the some of the men I’ve dated in the past who were so busy with work, and moving up the corporate ladder, that they didn’t seem to have time for me.  I can see now that it was never personal.  As a woman, I always thought, “why not accomplish and build it together?”  Now, I’m reminded that being focused on results while being a provider and protector,  many men may want to have it built before they share it.  Perhaps the next time, your man is working late, you’ll keep this in mind and know that it doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to spend time with you! 

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Ever feel like the man in your life doesn’t compliment you enough or maybe he doesn’t hold your hand when you’d like him to?  A lot of the women I talk to agree that while their husbands and boyfriends may provide nice lifestyles for them, and do nice things for them, they wish they got more compliments and would love their men to tell them how they feel about them.  This got me to thinking – what if as men and women we are speaking different languages when it comes to expressing our love?  One day I asked my boyfriend “how do you know when you are loved?” 

He said he knew he was loved when he was touched, like when his back is scratched or rubbed.  Interestingly, this is also how he shows his love for me.  He  holds my hand, spontaneously kisses me, and is always doing things for me.  I just love it!   I’m so thrilled to hear him purrr when I scratch his back now, as I know what it means to him.  What has your man know that he is loved?  Does he know what it takes for you to know you’re loved?  Maybe he is working over-time to provide you with lavish gifts when all you may want is a love note to say “I love you”, or recognition and appreciation for all you do for him?   Perhaps all he may need to feel loved is a home-cooked meal?  Try asking your man “when he knows he is loved?”  Together you may find out what your love language is.   Are you auditory—and hear expressions of love?  Are you kinesthetic—and you feel expressions of love through touch?  Or perhaps you are visual, and you see expressions of love? 

To get another view of your love language, click on the following  link to the  book “ The 5 Love Languages.”  Take the 30 second quiz to quickly find yours.

http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/30sec.html#love

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