Mary Loyer: Founder of Red Lipstick Inc.

Mary Loyer: Founder of Red Lipstick Inc.

Welcome Ladies! As a Speaker and Relationship Coach, I will show you a new perspective on how to be confident woman as bold as red lipstick! If you've ever been frustrated by the men in your life or felt overwhelmed trying to find your own balance and harmony, you have come to the right place for some answers!

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HWK054 After finishing dinner at my parents house a few weeks ago, my Mom reminded us to  put our dishes in the dishwasher when we were done.  My older sister seemed annoyed that my Mom felt the need to remind us, as my sister routinely cleaned her dishes.  What struck me as interesting was why my Mom did feel the need to remind us.  So I asked her, “Mom, why is it so important to you that the dishes be in the dishwasher, that you wanted to remind us?”  She answered, “When I wake up in the morning, and I see dishes left over from the night before, it’s hard for me to relax knowing that I have some work to do right away,”  She continues, “ but when I wake up and the kitchen is clean, it gives me the best feeling of peace and happiness, because I can just relax while I have my breakfast.” 

Wow, I thought.  It’s not the cleaning of the dishes that she was really asking for… It was the peace of mind and relaxation in the morning that she really wanted.  After hearing this, I said to her, “Mom, knowing that this is what a clean kitchen will provide you, I will certainly make sure I clean my dishes after dinner.”  I admit that before I knew the importance to her, clean dishes didn’t seem like that big of a deal to me.

That experience  got me to thinking… how often do we ask for something from our husbands or boyfriends,  that might seem so simple and mundane to them, yet it may hold such importance to us?  How often does it not get done, and then we are frustrated and disappointed ?  I wonder, do they understand what taking the trash out, or picking up the Milk from the store, or picking up their socks will actually “provide” for you?  If they knew that it would give you peace of mind so you could sleep that night, or relieve you from stress, might it change things?  The Men I’ve talked to about this have confirmed that providing for their woman is very important, so if they know how to make her feel “relaxed, peaceful, at ease, or happy in that moment” they will do it, even if it’s something as simple as taking out the trash. 

The next time you have a request, or need something from him, perhaps you’ll explain what this simple request will “actually” provide for you, and how it will make you feel.    You might notice him wanting to provide for you in a whole new way!  Email me and let me know how your man became your hero this week!  I can’t wait to hear all about it!

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