Many of you may have already heard of the recent book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.”  In this book,  Comedian Steve Harvey writes to us women, giving us the REAL scoop on what men really think about love, relationships, intimacy, and commitment.  I found it so fascinating, that I was compelled to tell you about some of my favorite revelations.  In the first chapter, “What Drives Men,” Steve Harvey explains that Men are driven by WHO they are, WHAT they do, and HOW much they make. No matter if he is a CEO, a CON, or both, everything he does is filtered through his title (who he is), how he gets the title (what he does), and the reward he gets for the effort (how much he makes).  These three things make up the DNA of manhood—the three accomplishments every man must achieve before he feels like he’s truly fulfilled his destiny as a man.

After reading this, I couldn’t help but think about the some of the men I’ve dated in the past who were so busy with work, and moving up the corporate ladder, that they didn’t seem to have time for me.  I can see now that it was never personal.  As a woman, I always thought, “why not accomplish and build it together?”  Now, I’m reminded that being focused on results while being a provider and protector,  many men may want to have it built before they share it.  Perhaps the next time, your man is working late, you’ll keep this in mind and know that it doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to spend time with you!